Sassy Sistahs: one woman’s vision to help local women feel connected

AS INTERNATIONAL Women’s Day is celebrated, one local woman is quietly making a difference by creating a space where local women can feel welcome, safe and connected.

Jane Bettison is the founder of Sassy Sistahs, a grassroots social group for local women that has grown into a thriving community of more than 700 members.

“I just wanted to improve my own social life,” Jane said.

“I had no idea how many other women were feeling the same way.”

Jane, who recalls how challenging it felt to build friendships when she moved to the area 35 years ago, recently found herself feeling isolated again after a long relationship ended.

“I had lost contact with old friends. So I thought I’d start a social ladies group,” she said.

“Never in my wildest dreams did I think it would get this big.

“There were so many people wanting connection and friendship. I had no idea – I thought it was just me!”

Two years on, Sassy Sistahs continues to grow, welcoming an average of three new members every day.

Jane was clear from the outset that the group would be exclusively for women.

“I wanted it to be a safe place where women wouldn’t feel they were going to be hit on by men,” she said.

“Some women could be leaving domestic violence situations, and I wanted them to feel comfortable.”

Jane says the most rewarding part is watching friendships form.

“I love seeing the connections and the beautiful new friendships.

“I feel proud knowing I created this space for women to come together.”

Jane said two women who met through the group are now planning an overseas trip together, something neither would have done on their own.

Members range widely in background, with most aged between 40 and 60.

The youngest is 30, while the oldest is an adventurous 83-year-old.

“Maggie’s incredible,” Jane laughed.

“She went zip-lining and shot tequila in Mexico. She’s such an inspiration, showing other women they don’t have to stop doing things.”

Activities are varied and member-driven, including book clubs, trivia nights, walking groups, morning coffee catch-ups, dinners at local restaurants, Friday night drinks, and a craft group known as Stitch ‘n  Bitch.

There are even group trips away to places like Barrington Tops and Byron Bay.

“Many of the activities give women the confidence to try things they may not feel comfortable doing alone,” said Jane.

For member Zenzi Grace, Sassy Sistahs arrived at exactly the right time.

“I’d had a horrible year: a relationship breakup and losing my home in a flood.

“I was couch- surfing and burnt out,” she said.

“I felt I was continually giving and then found I didn’t have friends or support anymore.”

Joining the group helped her reconnect with herself.

“I’m finding me again. Just being with beautiful women. We all have a common thread.

“I was like, ‘wow’ this is what needs to happen for women’s health and wellbeing.”

Another member, Francesca Hunter, joined after relocating to the Coffs Coast from Victoria last year.

“I expected it would take years to build friendships,” she said. “But Sassy Sistahs felt like walking into a welcoming community immediately.”

She believes groups like this are vital.

“Modern life can be isolating. Groups like this ensure that women can access that sense of belonging and connection with one another.”

As Sassy Sistahs continues to grow, Jane has her sights set on an ambitious milestone.

“I’m aiming for 1,000 members,” she said.

Anyone interested in finding out more about the group can check out Sassy Sistahs on Facebook.

By Leigh WATSON